by Br. Alexis Bugnolo
As you can see from this blog, From Rome, I make it a point to write about topics about which I see no one talking, but which need to be spoken about. In this post I will speak to those men who are slaves to the sins of impurity and how to be liberated in Christ. This is the “you” to whom I speak.*
Some of you have been enslaved since your youth, because no one told you in time what was a mortal sin of impurity and so you developed an addiction to sins of this kind. Some of you had such an addiction and broke it. And some of you fell into such an addition later in life.
The first advice I can give you, is not to take advice from someone who is addicted to the same sin. The internet is full of individuals, with or without degrees in pertinent fields, who are obviously addicted to impurity since they openly say there is nothing bad about such an addiction.
The best advice, of all, is to take the counsel of God and His Saints. This matter is very serious, for as Our Lady says at Fatima, the sins of impurity take the most souls to hell. And Saint Alphonsus says that no soul goes to Hell without the sin of impurity, just like no soul gets to heaven without the virtue of humility.
The second advice I can give you is, that you need to recognize that without Jesus Christ you cannot be saved. There is no self help which can save you, or which you can practice, without Jesus. That is because, the addiction to the sins of impurity is not just a physical or chemical addiction, but a spiritual addiction.
Why?
Because, the power of procreation which God has given to men and women, is not merely a biological power. In virtue of the fact that this power cooperates immediately and intimately with God’s creative power, in creating new human souls, at the moment of conception, the power of procreation is the one biological power which touches upon the supernatural and is inextricable from the spiritual.
To understand at the most basic level this power, consider that in 80 days each and every individual adult man in the world (even the most chaste) produces enough zygotes to repopulate nearly the entire planet with its present population. God made the man this way to show us how the power of procreation touches upon the Infinite power of the God of Life.
The misuse of such a power, then, is a very spiritual sin, it is not just a carnal sin.
Now many have spoken about what to do to break such a horrible slavery, from the point of view that these sins are carnal. The first things are fasting and abstinence, which in modern times must be said to include reducing the intake of proteins, vitamins and all nutritional sources, liquor and eliminating all stimulants, whether taken internally or used upon the body. The total destruction and removal of all pornography which you keep at home, in your office, in your car, or under your control (if you have the habit of hiding it elsewhere). The mortification of the eyes and imagination. The firm resolution never to commit such sins again. The removal of your person from occasions of these sins. Ending all evil friendships. Corporal mortifications, such as cold showers. — And in this one must recognize that there is no little sin of impurity. That is, there is no venial sin of impurity. Impurity is always a mortal sin. Because impurity as a sin consists in the use of the procreative power in a way in which it is not ordered to the conception of new souls in the womb of your wife. For that is the only reason and purpose God gave you to use this power.**
These are some of the necessary means to break addiction to carnal sins. Almost every man who has ever asked me counsel about such matters is one which I find, upon interrogation, is NOT practicing the above, or is addicted to self indulgence, as for example, eating too much red meat or using pornography.
But today I want to speak about the spiritual side of this sin. And not simply that a man falls into this sin because he does not have the habit of praying, such as praying the daily rosary. This is true, but why is it true?
Men commit sins of impurity because they are trying to prove something to themselves. This seems at first somewhat of an absurd and abstract statement, but it is not.
This is because, at the human level, we are not pure spirits, nor pure bodies, we are the union of an immortal soul and a mortal body. And often an individual who neglects to recognize this union of extremes in himself, takes action on one level, when action is required on the other level.
Thus, men who consider themselves a failure in anything visible try to compensate by proving that in something else they are a success in something else which is visible. This is why sins of impurity are so common among young men who are in a crisis about who they are to be and whether anyone really loves them in this world, and why they are so common among men who are in a crisis in their marriage or career or job, because they either do not find that they are loved by their wives, or because they think that failure in some other matter, requires them to attempt to succeed by being impure.
I will leave it to psychologists to enumerate all the occasions in which the sense of failure leads immediately to sins of impurity, especially the sin of self abuse, but I will enumerate some.
- Failure to win a spot on the team or in the club.
- Failure to succeed in a project or mission.
- Failure to convince others of your point of view.
- Failure to win at some contest.
- Failure to distinguish yourself in come accomplishment or talent or in good looks.
- Failure to be accepted by someone or group in which you put your hopes for self affirmation.
From the sense of failure most men react by seeking to affirm themselves by some act of impurity. By this they attempt to prove to themselves that they have what it takes to be a man and/or have it more than or better than those men whom they perceive to be their rivals or role models, whether as fathers or as peers.
And this is why only Jesus Christ and the identity He offers you in His Kingdom can save you.
Because only that kind of salvation which is interior and which satisfies that which we need most fundamentally, can rescue us from the real spiritual problem in which we fall, which consists in this, that we recognize that we have failed to be what we were never made to be WITHOUT RECOGNIZING what we are called and made to be.
This is verified in sins of impurity. Because the onset of such sins is nearly always at a time in life in which the individual has in his own eyes failed, because he is seeking to be that which he is not.
And the most common error here, is that a man seeks to be a man who is perfect according to the body, when in truth, we are made to be men who are perfect according to the soul. When we try to satisfy that which Saint Augustine calls, the most intimate desire of our heart, in something else, we find it does not fit, we then consider ourselves a failure, and then we try to make up for the dent or damage to our innermost conception of our own dignity. That is why, as St Augustine says, Thou has made our hearts for Thee, and they are restless until they rest in Thee.
And to be precise, I am not talking here about merely psychological depression. I am talking about ontological depression.
That is why we cannot be saved except by the Most Holy Trinity. Because when you turn back to the Most Holy Trinity, you turn back to the Source of all Order and Identity. And repentance will be just that: the decision made possible by God’s grace and YOUR collaboration with it, to seek again that which you were made to be and to stop wandering down ever-narrowing dark alleys of existence, in which there is no lasting consolation, but only worsening deprivation and worsening emptiness.
We are called to be the adopted sons of the Eternal Father. We are called to be the adopted brothers of the Eternal Son. We are called to be the adopted temples and soldiers of the Eternal Lord and Vivifier, the Holy Spirit. And I will add, we are called to be the beloved sons and knights of the Blessed Virgin, Our Mother in Heaven.
We are called by a Love which has contemplated our own personal individual existence from Eternity. We are called by this Eternal Love to be loved eternally. We are called by this Love which is God to be loved by everyone in Heaven, perfectly and forever. There, where God will wipe away every tear and sorrow and all shall be gladness and rejoicing. A Beatitude which we will posses in soul, but which also will pour over out of our souls into our bodies.
This is why, the most powerful prayer to break from the slavery to the sins of impurity is the Our Father. Because in this one prayer we can come to understand that our eternal destiny our ultimate and perfect affirmation, consolation, encouragement comes from the Eternal Father and finds its fulfillment only In Him.
This is also why repeated meditations or confessions which focus ONLY upon the eternity of hell and how horrible and terribly we have failed God by sins of impurity, is NOT going to solve the problem. It may even make it worse, because it increases the sense of failure and gives no hope or direction where to find true success.***
So my final advice is to contemplate that throne next to Himself to which God has called you, and for which He has made you and in this way you will find a stable ground upon of grace upon which to step forth from this slavery. For if you want that throne in which is found all goodness, you must understand that you must give up all impurity. Because just as the power of procreation touches upon the Infinite, so the virtue of purity is the root of immortality.
Because in the task of being something, where it really matters, that is, in getting to Heaven, God Himself with His Eternal Love and with His Omnipotence, has both made you in Christ and empowers you with His Holy Spirit — if you accept the challenge — to succeed eternally and achieve perfection in being eternally loved by everyone in Heaven, and not according to the flesh, but according to who you are, which is that according to which you are unique in all the cosmos, in all time and eternity.
May Our Immaculate and Ever Virgin Mother, who is so saddened when She sees us sin in any way, especially against purity, be your refuge and path back to God. For She who never was in any way impure was rewarded with the greatest joy in Heaven and She wants you, as Her adopted child, to enjoy that with Her, for as a Mother, Her heart can not rest until She sees you with Her in Her home and at Her table.****
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* And I speak to men, for no other reason, that being a man, I know something about being a man. I will readily confess, that as a hermit and consecrated virgin, I know nothing about women.
** And yes, that means, if you do not have a wife, you should never use this power. To understand this, let me use an example from an entirely different matter. At a gun range, when you practice shooting, you shoot at a target. If you shoot at anything else, you will never be allowed to return and may also be arrested and sent to prison. These are the rules of a gun range. And God has His own rules, because all Creation is His Range, and God Has an eternal prison, it’s called Hell. And Arresting Angels (not nice people at all), who are the angels of destruction and damnation (a.k.a devils) which take those in mortal sin to Hell.
*** This why I believe it is necessary for Confessors, during confession, not simply to hear the sins of impurity enumerated by the penitent, or simply talk about the eternity of hell which they merit, but to remind the sinner that he is called to a true destiny where he can succeed in arriving, because God is at his back every step of the way.
**** And She has many graces which no one ever asks Her for. One of which, is the grace to be worthy of Her love through a life of purity. For only the pure shall merit to kiss Her hand in Heaven.
That was a very beautiful and much needed post and it equally applies to women. It has great value and affirms our identity too. The footnotes were also excellent; the last bringing me to a tear of affection for the Holy Virgin our Mother and Queen. Thank you Br Bugnolo
Brother, would please elaborate on ventilators verses mortal sins of impurity?
Silent Crusader, what do you mean by Ventilators?
I meant venial verses mortal.
Dear Silent Crusader, there are no venial sins of impurity, all sins of impurity are mortal under the following conditions:
1) It is an act of using the procreative power outside the natural act of generation in marriage with your wife. It may be accompanied by venereal pleasure, it may not.
1) you know that to consent to such an act is a mortal sin before or during the act
2) you do it or continue to do the act anyhow, whether you do it for the pleasure or for some other reason.
This is not the place to get more detailed. But you will find the right doctrine in Saint Alphonsus de Liguori who lays down this rule for the conscience. Anything done intentionally to arouse such pleasure is mortal, whether the intention is to do that which is evil or merely rejoice in an evil which comes upon the self, whether this doing is merely passive such as watching, tolerating or doing nothing, so that the experience of impurity might continue.
Chastity consists in refusing disordered pleasure and its procurement in all circumstances in which it can be refused, and rousing disgust against it in all other circumstances in which it cannot be avoided or is violently imposed.
In these matters, the judgement exercised to discern is progressively corrupted as the experience becomes more intense, and that is why the longer or more occasions one puts oneself in, the decreased recognition of the evil ultimately blinds reason itself.
This is why such impurity should be kept as remote as possible, and many commit a mortal sin of imprudence in not avoiding the occasions which are occasions of sin for oneself.
However, I caution all who read this comment of mine, to beware. Because those even with a light addiction to venereal pleasure will be inclined not to diagnose that a sensation is venereal or impure or sexual until it is too late. In saying there are no venial sins of impurity, I do not mean to say there are no sins of impurity except those which are intense, prolonged or consummated in a biological act of transmission. Nay, rather, there are sins of impurity even in a single glance, for some men, or even in a single kiss, for some men. It depends on the personal sensitivity of the man and his inability to resist pleasure when he senses it and in his incapacity to avoid being intoxicated by it. In this men with less inclination to chastity sin more often. And that is why corporal penances which teach detachment from pleasure are the necessary path of instruction in this virtue.
Finally, I caution all not to focus entirely on impure pleasure, because even if a man felt no pleasure at all, all sins against the right ordering of the procreative power are STILL MORTAL SINS. It is not a sin because it is pleasurable, it is a sin because the act which does or does not produce pleasure, is disordered from the right way of human procreation, as defined in n. 1 above. Finally, you need to speak with a faithful and highly trained confessor if you are going to discuss details. But make sure he agrees upon these principles before you take his advice, because if he does not, he is a wicked pervert and stay away from him as you would stay away from a witch.
You answered perfectly my question!
What prayer intentions do you have that I can include in family Rosary?
May the Lord bless you!
That I may ever be faithful in my love to the Blessed Virgin.
Consider it done😊!
Thanks Brother. Excellent advice.
Overcoming sins of intractable impurity with God’s help can be thought of His way of raising us to a higher order of holiness. Never let the benefit of such a spiritual crisis go unattended. And constantly express gratitude for God and His Mother for all the help they give us. Overcoming sin strengthens us spiritually.
This is a beautiful exposition of the truth, brother! Many years and trials have taught me two critical points about this:
1. The conscious and prayerful awareness of one’s created purpose is the pivotal factor in attaining purity (confirming what you say here).
2. The Latin Mass is vastly superior to the N.O. in helping one to come to this prayerful awareness of one’s created purpose.
Br AlexisThank you for this confirmation of the very common and very deadly mortal sin of impurity. I have suffered from the affliction and degeneration of such sins from my youth and became discouraged with the inability of my confessors to provide any practical lasting help.Then, I came upon the Angelic Warfare Confraternity offered by the Dominicans. Since I joined this Confraternity I have remained chaste and, with the help of the Holy Spirit and the intercession of Mary and St Thomas Aquinas have been able to defeat impure practices, thoughts and impulses. I know that my happening upon this grace was an answer to prayer and I have been actively sharing this powerful tool in my parish. James H Johnson Laval QC Sent from my Samsung Galaxy smartphone.